 August
1, 2009 - An
incredibly Nice Day. Today was the actual due date for the baby. Anyway, last
night Shai slept for four and a half hours and today was
really awake and seemed to be enjoying everything. Akiko and
I were able to actually spend some time alone together.
After ,she spent a
couple hours cutting her hair and pampering
herself. I put together our new stroller today which is part
of a car seat and baby carrier travel system. Really looking
forward to taking little Shai out for a ride. The stroller
is kind of like the 4-wheel drive, 4Runner version of
strollers. Pretty cool way for the little guy to get around.
Tonight I made fish on the BBQ while Akiko and Shai spent
time inside and waited for the food to be cooked. |
August 1, 2009 - Email
Message - Jim, Linda.
Hey, I really wanna thank you guys for coming over last night and for returning
the car seat. Really kinda small in our place and now there is a bit more space.
Anyway, last night was really good. Shai slept 4.5 hours last night. I made
breakfast this morning and all of us are much more relaxed. Pretty much planning
to stay in for the next couple weeks. Akiko really wants the baby to be stronger
before going out again. This is the link to my page on the education site. You
can join from this page too.
http://edufire.com/FunEasyEnglish
Send email when you can.
Howie, Akiko. |
 August
2, 2009 - Another
Quiet Day Together. We
spent much of the day finishing up a few projects in the
house and then enjoyed another weekend BBQ, this time
chicken. Really nice temperature at night the last few days
and feels good to leave the windows open and get the
nighttime breeze. We are pretty much certain about moving to
Japan at this point and already getting things ready. Not
sure when, but the plan is pretty much set for now anyway. |
 August
3, 2009 - Finally in
the Groove. Yup,
things seem to be settling a bit for us. The cloth
diaper system is working perfectly and many of the setting
up projects are finished. We are finding a lot more time
to relax with the baby. We work out of our home which allows
us to spend the
entire day working together for the baby now. Really cannot
understand what it must be like for single parents who are
working full time. Anyway, we are very happy with our
situation. |
August 3, 2009 - Email
Message - Hi.
Thanks for getting back to me. I'm not sure if you will get a correct answer
from your insurance company. Remember, this is a religious event that is
completely separate from my work as a pediatrician. I have a separate tax
identification number than I have as my work as a pediatrician. So if the
insurance company says I am listed as a provider, they are correct in regards to
my pediatrician work. They do not contract with me regarding religious
ceremonies, i.e. a Bris. It would be similar to a person trying to make sure
that a Baptism from a priest would be covered by insurance. Given that,
sometimes the insurance company will reimburse the parents for a circumcision if
you have PPO insurance but I can not guarantee it. I would be able to supply you
with an invoice that you can submit but I have the parents pay me directly when
I perform the circumcision.
Hope this helps to clarify the situation. Sincerely
Stuart Rubenstein.
August 3, 2009 - Email
Message - Dr. Rubenstein.
Hi. We want to thank you for contacting us about the bris for our son. We are
hoping for a Thursday appointment but we need to find out if our insurance will
be covering everything. Quite honestly, $500 is a bit much for us at this time.
We will send email as soon as we get word back from the insurance company. Thank
you for understanding. Talk to you again.
Howie and Akiko Hayman.
August 3, 2009 - Email
Message - Hi.
A Bris needs to be done by sunset, but does not need to be done in the morning.
With my schedule, I can accommodate two Bris each day, one at noon and one at
6pm. I already have one scheduled at noon. Would the 6pm time work for you? If
it does, send me your son's full English name and I will reply to that email
with all the info you need regarding the Bris. Sincerely
Stuart Rubenstein.
August 3, 2009 - Email
Message -
Dr. Rubenstein.
Hi again. We want to thank you for getting back to us. It would be nice if we
could get this procedure covered but either way this event is much too important
to worry about money. We read through your entire website and understand the
bris should take place in the morning. We would like to do this on Thursday
morning, 8/6/09 if possible. Please send email as soon as you can.
Howie and Akiko Hayman. |
 August
4, 2009 - No More
Belly Button Thingy. Today
Shai's belly button thingy fell off. It was already loose
and kind of getting in the way of his diapers. Anyway, not
so interesting for most of you reading this but an event for
us. |
August 4, 2009 - Email
Message - Jim.
Hi. I am not totally sure about the bris at this time. Akiko and I considered
going to her OBGYN but not sure. Akiko and I will probably do this with only the
two of us though. We are still waiting for the final answer from the insurance
company. Yup, fishing needs to wait. Talk to you again.
Howie.
August 4, 2009 - Email
Message - Jim, Linda.
Hi. I wanted to send email and explain a bit of stuff. We are still not sure
about the bris at this point although we are definitely going to do it either
way. We are in contact with the same person but unable to confirm a time. Akiko
and I went back and forth about if we want to do this alone or with friends and
still unsure although we are leaning more towards it being the two of us and the
baby. Akiko seems to be a bit overwhelmed recently with all the attention. It is
difficult for many of our friends to understand as most of them are not used to
being associated with someone from an Asian culture and background where things
are done on a much more personal level. For me it is simply sad because my
parents cannot be there for any of this. Anyway, we will keep you posted. We
would like you to come for dinner next week sometime. Any night is good for us.
Send email when you can.
Howie, Akiko.
August 4, 2009 - Email
Message - Hi.
We can do it this Friday. I usually get out of the office by noon and will come
right over. Where do you live? Also, I still need your son's full English name.
Thanks
Stuart Rubenstein.
August 4, 2009 - Email
Message - Dr. Rubenstein.
Hi. We would need a 12:00 pm appointment Monday – Friday. Please let us know if
we could do it this Friday. Send email when you can. Thanks.
Howie and Akiko Hayman. |
 August
5, 2009 - Sleeping
Day. Today
was pretty quiet and relaxing. Shai spent a lot of time
sleeping, and um, eating and peeing and pooing. |
August 5, 2009 - Email
Message -
Hi, Mazel Tov on the birth of your son!
We are confirmed for Friday August 7th arriving around 12:15pm.
Please do the following three items:
Reply to this email so that I know you received it and read all the attachments.
Fill out the form on my website (www.brisforbaby.com) as soon as you can.
Please, no later than 48 hours before the Bris.
Purchase the LMX-4 (5 gram tube size) numbing cream. This cream needs to be
purchased prior to the Bris since you need to apply it one hour before the
ceremony. This is an OTC medicine but most pharmacies do not have it on stock
and will need a day or two for it to be delivered. If you have trouble getting
it, I usually have a stash of them at my office which only costs me $10.
Attached you will find six items:
1. This is a handout for the guests (two sided handout). This is the only
attachment that you need to print for the guests. Please feel free to make as
many copies as you need for your guests.
2. The parent’s section of the Bris. If you read Hebrew, that would be nice but
not required. You can read only the English if you desire. Some parents will
alternate the paragraphs in the section "Parents, before the circumcision."
3. Instructions on the application of LMX-4 or EMLA numbing cream and the after
circumcision care sheet. Please read it before the Bris so that you can ask me
questions about any part that is unclear.
4. This is a consent form. Please fill it out before the Bris. You can give it
to me at the Bris.
5. Bris readings. This is optional. It is a way to include special relatives or
friends. Please feel free to use these, modify these or make up your own. If you
are going to use the Bris readings, please give a copy to the person before the
Bris.
6. Bris ceremony outline and Checklist Instructions for the Bris
If you have any questions, or the files do not get transmitted correctly, please
call my home office number at xxx.xxx.xxxx. Sincerely
Stuart Rubenstein, MD.
Certified Mohel.
August 5, 2009 - Email
Message - Dr. Rubenstein.
Hi. We would like you to come to our home this Friday then.
The full English name of our son.
Shai Maxwell Hayman.
Parents names.
Howard Steven Hayman.
Akiko Iwamoto Hayman.
We are located one mile from Mission Trails Regional Park.
Address
6840 Hyde Park Drive, Unit C, San Diego, CA. 92119.
Telephone number xxx-xxx-xxxx.
Please note the ringer on our phone is usually off as we use email most of the
time.
You are welcome to leave a message though.
Directions.
Take 8 to the College Avenue Exit.
Go North on College Avenue away from SDSU.
Turn right on Navajo Road.
Go all the way up the hill and turn right on Park Ridge Boulevard.
Make an immediate left turn on Hyde Park Drive.
Make an immediate left turn into the Brentwood condominium complex.
Go to the left in the complex and drive to the far rear corner and up the little
hill.
Important – Park in space number 166, the middle of three spaces.
Walk up the sidewalk adjacent to the carport.
Then walk to the end of the sidewalk, our unit is the rear, first floor unit.
Please send email when you can. Thanks.
Howie and Akiko Hayman.
August 5, 2009 - Email
Message -
Thank you for your interest in my performing your Bris or
regular circumcision. I will contact you as soon as
possible (please leave a telephone number to contact
you). If I have not reached you within 24 hours, please
call my home office at 858.793.4563. Due to new HIPAA
regulations (patient privacy regulations), medical
questions not related to a Bris or circumcision can not be
answered by email and are required to be deleted
immediately. Please call my pediatric office at xxx.xxx.xxxx for medical questions.
Thank you
Stuart Rubenstein, MD.
August 5, 2009 - Email
Message - Hi.
The LMX cream needs to be applied one hour before I get to your house.
Therefore, you will need to pick it up at my office prior to the Bris. My office
hours are from 8am to noon, and from 1:30pm to 5pm. My office address is 12395
El Camino Real, suite 219, SD 92130.
Ralphs pharmacy has always been good about getting it. You could try them but
not sure you can get it in time.
Sincerely,
Stuart Rubenstein.
August 5, 2009 - Email
Message - Dr. Rubenstein.
Hi. I need to ask you to bring a tube of the LMX4 or EMLA cream. We would be
happy to pay the 10 dollars after running around today and being unable to
purchase either of these. Savon close to our home had no knowledge of the LMX4
cream and said the EMLA was prescription only. Walgreens also was unaware of the
LMX4 cream but could order a 15 gram tube of the EMLA with no guarantee it would
arrive on time. Please send email if you are able to supply the cream for us and
arrive early enough for it to be effective. All other items were purchased
today. Thank you very much.
Howie and Akiko Hayman.
August 5, 2009 - Email
Message -
Great news. See you Friday.
Stuart Rubenstein.
August 5, 2009 - Email
Message -
Hi. We found a place which could order the cream. See you on Friday. Thanks. |
 August
6, 2009 - 4Runner
Stroller and Picnic. We
finally took the new 4Runner stroller out for a test run
today. We walked all the way to Mission Trails Regional Park
and Lake Murray (background), which was about a total 2.5
mile walk. Shai slept through the entire event. |
 In
the afternoon, we went back to Mission Trails Regional Park
for a picnic. Shai seemed to like being on the blanket in
the grass. He will probably be one of those kids who likes
outside stuff. |
August 6, 2009 - Email
Message - Hi. Please call me tonight at xxx.xxx.xxxx so that we can go
over some last minute questions. Thanks, Stuart Rubenstein.
August 6, 2009 - Email
Message -
Hi. We received a call from CVS on Jackson Drive. They said the tube does not
come in 5 grams anymore and they are unable to fulfill the prescription without
speaking with you. They said you gave them your fax number instead of your
telephone number. Please call them as soon as you can at 619-465-6800. Thanks.
August 6, 2009 - Email
Message - Hi.
I definitely need to talk to you tonight!
Please give me a call.
Thanks,
Stuart Rubenstein.
August 6, 2009 - Email
Message - Dr. Rubenstein.
Hi. We went through quite a bit getting the cream the last couple days but
finally worked it out. Anyway, working on feeding the baby now. Probably no need
to talk tonight as the information you sent was quite self explanatory.
Everything will be set up early in the morning awaiting your arrival. See you
tomorrow then.
Howie and Akiko Hayman. |
 August
7, 2009 - Bris. Today
Shai went through the Bris, or circumcision ceremony in our
home. The service was performed by Dr. Rubenstein, who is a
certified Mohel. Brit milah (Hebrew: בְּרִית מִילָה [b'rīt
mī'lā], Sephardi pronunciation, berit milah; Ashkenazi
pronunciation, bris milah, "covenant of circumcision";
Yiddish, bris) is a religious ceremony within Judaism to
welcome infant Jewish boys into a covenant between God and
the Children of Israel through ritual circumcision performed
by a mohel ("circumciser"). This happens on the eighth day
of the child's life unless health reasons or certain
specific conditions pertaining to the date, time, and
conditions of birth vis-a-vis the Sabbath and/or holidays
force a delay, in the presence of family and friends,
followed by a celebratory meal (seudat mitzvah). |
 August
8, 2009 - Ayumi
Finally Meets Shai. My
long time and really good friend Ayumi finally was able to
meet Shai today. Me and Ayumi saw each other through many
tough times and happy times. Much has changed over the years
and now Akiko and I will be moving to Japan and Ayumi will
be moving out of SD sometime this year. Many good changes
coming for everyone within the next few months. Ayumi
brought a lot of food and many really nice presents. Thank
you again. |
 August
9, 2009 - Football
Game. Really think this was quite a coincidence. Today was the
Hall of Fame football game played in Canton, Ohio. This game
is the first preseason game of the season, was televised on
national television, and featured the Buffalo Bills who are
celebrating their 50th year in the National Football league
this year. This was also the first Professional Football
game for Shai. Pretty cool. |
August 12, 2009 - Email
Message - Jim.
Hi. I am beginning to get ready for the move to Japan. Want to talk to you about
a few things when you can find the time. Maybe you guys could walk over or we
could walk over there. Send email when you can.
Howie.
August 12, 2009 - Email
Message - Jim.
Hi. I keep thinking it is a honeydew thingy. Anyway, no problem. Know you guys
are busy these days. Let us know if we are still supposed to come for the BBQ
this weekend. Maybe see you tonight then.
Howie.
August 12?, 2009 - Email
Message -
Stuart and Britt. Hi.
Hope Shai is doing well.
Attached is the invoice.
Sincerely,
Stuart Rubenstein. |
 August
13, 2009 - Meteor
Shower. This mini adventure actually began on the 12th but the
pictures were taken today. Anyway, we all went up to the
Laguna Mountains, about 45 minutes from San Diego, to watch
the annual Perseids meteor shower. Shai slept through the
entire trip but Akiko and I were able to enjoy the show. We
parked at our favorite spot in the Laguna Campground located
in the Cleveland National Forest. We put the tailgate down
on the truck and laid back and saw lots of meteors including
a few fireballs. It was a really nice experience. |
 August
14, 2009 - Fishing Trip. Yup,
Shai went fishing for the first time today. He even caught
three fish….not really. We were able to land a really nice
smelt and two mackerel though. Akiko fried them Teriyaki
style using soy sauce and sugar. Really wanted to take Shai
fishing at least once before heading off to Japan in a few
months. |
August 16, 2009 - Email
Message - Jim, Linda.
Hey, we really wanna thank you for last night. The food was really good as usual
and it was nice seeing everyone again. We forgot our little plastic container
and thought we might take a walk over today. Pretty sure you guys are going out
for breakfast. Anyway, send email when you get home and let us know if we can
come over for a few minutes. Thank you again.
Howie, Akiko.
August 17, 2009 - Email
Message - Jim, Linda.
Hey, thanks for letting us come over and eat again. Let us know if you want to
go fishing for sure tomorrow. Make sure the dude can make the walk out on the
pier. A half mile to the end. Send email when you can.
Howie, Akiko.
August 17, 2009 - Email
Message - Jim.
Hi. I wanna know if you need a couple cans of dark walnut stain. This is the
same color as the kitchen cabinets. Cannot use it now with the baby in the
house. If not then gonna toss it out. There is also a pair of safety goggles and
a pretty nice mask for working with chemicals. Send email about all this when
you can.
Howie.
August 17, 2009 - Email
Message - Jim.
Hi. Akiko and I will be going back to walking again today. Probably will not be
online again until this evening. Anyway, get either 10 or 12 lb test line.
Already got plenty of hooks and weights. No need for you to get those things.
Send email if you need anything else. Talk to you again.
Howie.
August 17, 2009 - Email
Message - Hey Jim and family and everyone.
This is the plan for fishing tomorrow. We are going to get there about 10:45 am
and probably fish for at least a couple of hours.
The following link is directions from PB.
http://maps.google.com/maps?f=d&source=s_d&saddr=diamond+street,+pacific+beach,+ca&daddr=ocean+beach+pier,+ca&hl=en&geocode=&mra=ls&sll=37.0625,-95.677068&sspn=34.999041,78.837891&ie=UTF8&t=h&z=13
The following link shows the parking lot adjacent to the pier. Access to the
parking lot is actually from Newport Ave. Suggest trying to get a spot on
Niagara Ave. to avoid the stairs up to the pier which is a bit of a hike.
http://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&source=s_q&hl=en&geocode=&q=ocean+beach+pier,+ca&sll=37.0625,-95.677068&sspn=34.999041,78.837891&ie=UTF8&ll=32.747352,-117.253084&spn=0.002269,0.004812&t=h&z=18
Anyway should be able to catch many fish over five inches for sure. See you
tomorrow. Until then.
Howie, Akiko. |
 August
18, 2009 - Another Fishing Trip. Another
fishing trip for Shai but no fish this time. We met a group
of our friends out there from San Diego and Buffalo. It was
a bit too cool windy but everyone enjoyed seeing each other. |
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August 18, 2009 - Email
Message - Jim, Linda.
Hi. I need you to make sure everyone knows to meet us on the pier next to the
cafe and NOT at the parking lot. Because of the stroller, we need to park up on
the street. Please call everyone and tell them where to meet. Thanks. Send email
when you can.
Howie, Akiko. |
 August
27, 2009 - Really Hot
This Week. This
week the temperatures climbed to about 100 degrees at our
place and was even warmer in surrounding communities. The
humidity was around 10 percent much of the day. Needless to
say it was not the most comfortable week for the baby. The
same conditions are forecast to continue for a few more days
but a little cooler. I planned to update this page more over
the last few days but it was too hot to be on the computer.
You can see a few little fans in the picture which were
purchased in Japan a few years ago. |
 August
29, 2009 - Baby
Shower With Friends. Today
was the baby shower for Shai. The hosts of the party were
our friends Jim and Linda Timlin who live about a mile from
our place. The families knew each other all the way back in
Buffalo. The party, food, and games were really nice. A few
of our closest friends showed up and spent the afternoon
with us. |
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August 30, 2009 - Solution
For Grumpy Babies.
Hey, I can remember running into the living room of my house
every time the “Ajax, bum bum, the blue dot cleanser”
commercial came on when I was a kid. It seems certain sounds
and images can quiet even the grumpiest of babies. For Akiko
and I, the following video works 100 percent of the time for
Shai. Many of you already know this video but always good
for another look. The video is no longer working but pretty
sure it was crazy frog. |
 August
31, 2009 - Final Fishing Trip
Before Japan. Today
was the last fishing day for me, Akiko, and little Shai
before heading off to Japan. Although we are not planning to
leave for a few months, taking the little guy fishing is not
easy at this age. Pretty much told Akiko this would be the
last time this season. Turned out to be a good finish. A
group of bonito were “boiling” off in the distance. I was
able to cast directly in the middle of the school and
immediately caught the first bonito of the season. Then I
was reeling the line in again and caught another. The last
fish caught was an undersized bass. We took the bonito home
and made a BBQ, drank a bottle of wine, and relaxed. A nice
way to finish up fishing for the year. |
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