Howie Hayman
 
- Work Continues, Last Party, Exhausted. This is now the second consecutive month of working on the adjacent house almost every day from about 7:00 am until about 5:00 pm. Doing this while watching two year old Shai from 8:00 am until 6:00 pm and sometimes later, Monday thru Friday. Totally exhausted at this point and hoping to find the energy to finish all the work which need to be done. End of the month was a crazy Halloween party which turned out to be the last party until who knows when.

October 14, 2011 - Email Message - Ikuko. This email was written before class. Hi. I really want you to understand about the classes. Actually the reason for you coming to the classes was to get the chance to meet. You realize it is better for the students if the classes are totally in English. If you are in the classes it is too easy for the students to depend on you. Was kind of disappointed you could not meet the other night. Really want to talk to you about all this in detail instead of talking a few minutes in the street. Want to talk about many things. Find some time to talk. Send email when you can.

October 15, 2011 - Email Message - Ikuko. Hi. I want to really be straight with you. When you came to the house for the last class it was obvious you were upset. When class was finished you walked out of the house very quickly and seemed irritated. Akiko noticed your attitude easily and was not happy. We talked about it during lunch. We decided it is not fair to the students if you come to the class like this. I was not comfortable teaching the beginning class. Really wanted to talk about all this with you directly. Anyway it would be better for you not to be an assistant in the beginning class anymore. Hopefully you understand about this. Send email when you can.

October 16, 2011 - Email Message - Hey I really cannot believe your attitude. I talked with Akiko and showed your email and she cannot believe it either. Honestly you are acting like a child. We appreciate you assisting in the classes and getting the beginning student but recently your behavior is affecting the students and my ability to teach. You were given the chance to meet to discuss this and you said no. Talking to you in the street was the only choice besides email to explain the situation to you.
Beginning Class
It was perfectly fine for you to stay in this class until this past class. You acted unprofessionally and showed your irritated attitude to the students and to me. Even when I asked you to repeat a word a couple times you said “mou ii” and would not do it which Akiko said was unacceptable for you to do in the class. Then when leaving the house you barely acknowledged Akiko. Quite honestly it does not matter to me and Akiko what you say to your sister and to the students. It will be explained to them you were rude and unprofessional and this it the reason for not keeping you in the class as an assistant.
Intermediate Class
The students both agreed it was better for them with you not in the class. They are paying for English instruction and I need to respect their needs and not yours. This was a BUSINESS DECISION and not personal and you should realize this if you were acting like an adult.
You seem to look at things only from your side anytime. You forget the very important fact it was a benefit for you to attend a couple hours of English classes FOR FREE all these months. When we began the school we gave your family the option of joining the classes for only 4000 yen. All of you seemed excited about the offer and were interested in learning English but none of you enrolled in the classes. This was really a disappointment for us but we did not say anything to you and your family all this time.
Quite honestly contacting the other students about this is unprofessional and immature. All you are doing is creating an uncomfortable situation for everyone. For many months me and Akiko made parties and tried to create a fun and different environment for everyone. As a Japanese person Akiko really understands the stresses of Japanese people and wanted to create a situation where everyone could relax. Because of you contacting the other students it might be difficult for us to invite everyone to the parties now.
I found it interesting you are upset about not receiving thanks for being an assistant. I can understand your thinking because for three weeks total time within the last year was working on the vacant land next to our house. Even with other men and boys in the neighborhood nobody offered to help. Nobody even offered a drink or anything and no thanks. When the work was finished the boys played in the yard and the neighbors relatives parked a car there even though they did nothing and it is not even their property.
Then me and Akiko were nice enough to arrange for the recycle company to come to this neighborhood and told the neighbors to put their stuff. I spent a couple days VERY NEATLY arranging the materials to make it easy for the recycle guy. Then early in the morning the neighbors literally threw their GARBAGE in messy piles all over the front of the yard. Then me and the recycle guy needed to take time to sort through the GARBAGE to separate out the recyclable materials due to the inconsiderate behavior of the neighbors. Actually me and Akiko were both pissed about it and decided not to arrange this type of situation again.
You are not the only one who is upset about all this and you need to realize this. All of us are sad, disappointed, and pissed about things but you seem to be the only person complaining about it. It will be difficult for everyone to be good with each other from now.


October 29, 2011 - Facebook Event - Annual Halloween Party - Saturday, October 29, 2011 at 2:00 PM
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